EP 257 - The Things We Hide: How the Walls You Built to Survive Are Limiting How You Lead
What You Hide Controls You
Most leaders don't realize they're hiding anything. Most call it drive, standards, or even professionalism. But underneath every wall a leader builds — the intensity, the distance, the silence, the stillness — is a wound that never got named.
In this episode, host Tyler Dickerhoof reads from the opening chapters of his new book, The Things We Hide — including the foreword written by John C. Maxwell — and takes you inside the moments that built his own walls. A brother's death at fourteen. Years of rejection and ridicule. The slow, quiet decision to stop letting people in.
This episode covers:
Why the things leaders hide don't stay hidden, they show up in every room, relationship, and decision
The four walls leaders build from their fears and insecurities: Intensity, Insensitivity, Isolation, and Inactivity
How to identify your core insecurity and why naming it is the most powerful thing you can do
Why your greatest growth won't come from doing more; only from being more yourself
The Things We Hide is available now wherever books are sold. Or grab it here: The Things We Hide Book
Meet Tyler
Leader, Speaker, and Podcast Host.
Others describe him as an empathetic, compassionate guy who is willing to be 100% authentic, face his insecurities, and help others do the same. But it wasn’t always that way.
Tyler used to believe that his worth was derived from how much he knew, so his life was very much about convincing others that he knew it all. Any time he faced challenges (and there were many!)
Thankfully, he’s outgrown that version of himself. Over the last decade or so, he’s immersed himself in the world of personal development.
Today his relationships have moved from fractured to thriving.
Today his mission in life is to provide others with the self-awareness, the tools, and the community they need to make the same miraculous transformation.
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About the Tyler Dickerhoof Show Podcast
The Impact Driven Leader Podcast, hosted by Tyler Dickerhoof, is for Xillennial leaders who have felt alone and ill-equipped to lead in today's world. Through inspiring interviews with authors from around the world, Tyler uncovers how unique leadership strengths can empower others to achieve so much more, with real impact.
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